Fly on the wall or blend in with the guests? My approach as a wedding photographer in Mallorca

You’ve probably heard it before.
“I’m a fly on the wall.”
It’s something many wedding photographers and filmmakers proudly say when asked about their approach. The idea is to be invisible—to document without disturbing, to let moments unfold naturally. And sure, that sounds great in theory. And some moments throughout the day it’s totally possible. But here’s the thing:

Me, chatting with wedding guests.

Rumor has it, flies aren’t very good photographer - or filmmakers

Let’s be honest. Flies are awkward. You notice them, they are annoying and you might even give them a side eye, to make sure they’re not coming your way. The same I’ve experienced when I try to be invisible to get those candid shots. The guests awkwardly staring into my camera, not knowing where to look.

That’s why I believe in something a little different. I believe in blending in—like a guest with a camera. Being present, being kind, and being part of the day. You’ll probably see me chatting with your grandma or your cousin. Because next time I pass them with my camera, they’ll think: “Oh, there’s that nice photographer!” Rather than “Oh no, is she filming me? What is she doing?”

What blending in looks like:

• I’ll help your dad pin his corsage if no one else is around.

• I’ll laugh (quietly) at your best man’s speech while filming it.

• I’ll dance a little with your guests while capturing the energy on the dance floor.

• And yes, I’ll still step back when I need to. I know when to be invisible and when to lean in.

Because the truth is, many of the most heartfelt, emotional, or just downright hilarious moments don’t happen when someone’s lurking silently in a corner. They happen when people feel seen, relaxed, and safe. When your guests feel like I’m part of the celebration, not a stranger watching from the sidelines.

It’s about trust.

When I blend in, I earn the trust of your family and friends. That’s how I can capture your dad’s teary eyes during the ceremony, your little cousin’s wild dance moves, or that split second when you and your partner look at each other like you’re the only ones in the room.

So no, I’m not a fly on the wall.
I’m more like a friendly chameleon with a camera. Does that make sense? Ha!

And I wouldn’t have it any other way.